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'''Regret mom''' is a term used by women who have given birth to a boy and had him circumcised, but now regret having done it to him. | '''Regret mom''' is a term used by women who have given birth to a boy and had him circumcised, but now regret having done it to him. | ||
| − | In some countries (esp. in the USA) and cultures (mainly among Jews and Muslims), expectant parents are urged by their own parents or relatives to have their son circumcised. Even doctors and religious leaders and communities encourage or press them to agree to the [[circumcision]] of the son. | + | In some countries (esp. in the USA) and cultures (mainly among Jews and Muslims), expectant parents are sometimes urged by their own parents or relatives to have their son circumcised. Even doctors and religious leaders and communities encourage or press them to agree to the [[circumcision]] of the son. |
Many (expectant) fathers in these countries and cultures are genitally mutilated themselves and may not have reflected what has been done to them. So they often easily agree, using trivializing arguments. But because in most of these countries and cultures [[FGM]] isn't routinely done to girls, most (expectant) mothers do not have their own physical reason and repressive mechanism to play down genital mutilation. Instead, many of these women feel too weak to argue against their men or they simply believe that "it has to be done because everyone does it". This is a very dangerous attitude, because it not only downplays the "procedure", but it also denies the right of suffering victims to suffer, because of the lack of ability to empathize even physically or mentally, what happens to a boy in the "circumcision". | Many (expectant) fathers in these countries and cultures are genitally mutilated themselves and may not have reflected what has been done to them. So they often easily agree, using trivializing arguments. But because in most of these countries and cultures [[FGM]] isn't routinely done to girls, most (expectant) mothers do not have their own physical reason and repressive mechanism to play down genital mutilation. Instead, many of these women feel too weak to argue against their men or they simply believe that "it has to be done because everyone does it". This is a very dangerous attitude, because it not only downplays the "procedure", but it also denies the right of suffering victims to suffer, because of the lack of ability to empathize even physically or mentally, what happens to a boy in the "circumcision". | ||
Revision as of 16:22, 19 September 2019
Regret mom is a term used by women who have given birth to a boy and had him circumcised, but now regret having done it to him.
In some countries (esp. in the USA) and cultures (mainly among Jews and Muslims), expectant parents are sometimes urged by their own parents or relatives to have their son circumcised. Even doctors and religious leaders and communities encourage or press them to agree to the circumcision of the son.
Many (expectant) fathers in these countries and cultures are genitally mutilated themselves and may not have reflected what has been done to them. So they often easily agree, using trivializing arguments. But because in most of these countries and cultures FGM isn't routinely done to girls, most (expectant) mothers do not have their own physical reason and repressive mechanism to play down genital mutilation. Instead, many of these women feel too weak to argue against their men or they simply believe that "it has to be done because everyone does it". This is a very dangerous attitude, because it not only downplays the "procedure", but it also denies the right of suffering victims to suffer, because of the lack of ability to empathize even physically or mentally, what happens to a boy in the "circumcision".
When mothers finally listen to their heart, do adequate research or simply (re-)find their innate compassion and empathy with the child, many of them "wake up from a coma of denial" and find themselves in a temporarily bad mood. They finally recognize that they have severely harmed their child, and they start regretting it. From the moment they speak openly, express their regret and possibly ask their (older) child for forgiveness, they become regret moms.
IntactiWiki has asked regret moms in relevant Facebook groups to reveal themselves here and to talk about the circumstances of both the circumcision and realization that this was a mistake. Some of them will even tell about the hospitals, doctors, mohels, relatives and others who urged them to have their boy circumcised.
Stories of regret moms
(... to be continued ...)